This post stemmed from an earlier one “Wedding Dos and Dont’s for Guests” and I hope this helps out some men out there. Gone are the days where men just rent a tux, pay for wedding, and show up to say “I DO.” The Modern Man is more into fashion these days and Weddings are as much his day as Hers. Actually, I believe that men always wanted to voice their opinions at their weddings but feared being called un-manly. It’s a new day! I hope these tips and tricks can steer some in the right directions. It should at least tell your Brides that “yes indeed, men have a right and should be included in every aspect of their wedding.” It’s no longer her day, it’s Your (collective) day. Enjoy!
Colors: Most Grooms do not want to be in a sea of feminine, frilly, soft-pink and lacy surroundings. The colors of the wedding should be a representation of the Bride AND Groom. Three of my favorite color-combos for weddings (with a guy-pleasing masculine edge) are Navy paired with the softest pale green and ivory; Chocolate Brown with Deep Red and some sparkly “bling-bling;” and Taupe (deep and rich) with the palest of blue with hints of white are all the rage in 2009. Don’t just take my word for it, articlebase.com agrees with me – they also have other non-feminine combos.
Flowers: If flowers are not your thing, then don’t make a fuss about your involvement. However, although flowers may NOT be your thing – color and shape may be. Also, you know what looks ugly (to you) so you really should be present when choosing flowers (colors, styles, costs, shape, etc.)
Food: Of course, you and the Bride should have what you like – NOT what you think your guest prefer. I remember that a friend’s brother almost had Filet Mignon at his wedding (and he does not like the taste of red meat.) Why pay all that money for food you do not like – on your Wedding Day?? Please, have what YOU like, after all you’re paying for it.
Wedding Guests/Seating: I think it is ridiculous for Groom’s not be part of the seating arrangements. The Bride may not even know (know well anyway) the Groom’s extended family. Most wedding tables are set-up with seating for 8. A good idea is to have 2 pairs of family members for the Bride AND 2 pairs for the Groom’s side at each table. Each person (Bride & Groom) knows their families’ personalities best so they can say “hey, my two pairs would have a great time with your two pairs at this one table.” Try to place “singles” together and “co-workers” together irrespective to who’s on the Bride’s or Groom’s side. Seat the Bride’s Parents, Grandparents, and siblings …
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Great ideas Uncle just hope that the Bridezillas out there dont get offended. Weddings should be for both sides not one. If you can work with your man at the wedding then you truely are a great pair because we all know how stressful the event can become.
Excellent ideas and so very true. Having gone through this process many, many years back, I can confirm that the groom’s involvement in all planning decisions is extremely critical.
I wished my husband was more involved when we planned our wedding 6 years ago. I just found out (because of your post) that he did not like the colors of our wedding nor did he like our invitations. NOW HE TELLS ME! H. Luiz Presents, where were you 6 years ago?!?!
Keep up the good work.
I think it’s ridiculous when I hear women says “It’s my day!” NO, IT’S NOT, it’s OUR day!!! I mean come on, it’s the 21st century, a groom’s participation in his wedding is no longer frowned upon. When I get married, I’m going to be involved in the wedding as much as my future fiance, the way it should be.
Hey – someone finally said it. Thank you!
Maybe you can write about men who are already married but do not spend time with their families, especially their kids.